When the COVID-19 pandemic first took place, I think people were forced to sit down and reflect on life because we did not know what was to come tomorrow. Here in New York City, you had people banging pots and pans at 7pm each night to show love to healthcare workers and other essential workers. But now since those days are gone I think as a collective, we have lost this spirit. The levels of hate from crimes of war, poverty, and mental illness have greatly increased and I think it’s time for us to once again show…
LOVE
In this season of giving, we must learn to have LOVE for each other again. When we have LOVE for ourselves and that of others the energy that circulates can be great. LOVE means not bringing any harm to others. LOVE means not being selfish and giving when you can. LOVE means speaking to everyone respectfully and listening actively. In the end, LOVE can mean so many things to different people.
So, what are some ways in which we can show LOVE? The Five LOVE languages as created by Dr. Gary Chapman have been of great help to couples but the way one receives LOVE can still be the same for your family and platonic relationships. What are the Five LOVE languages and how can we apply them?
- Words of Affirmation: “Thank You so much” “I appreciate you,” and “I LOVE You” goes a long way. Even if you can’t always speak it, you can always write it for the other person to see.
- Acts of Service: Have you ever had someone pull the sheets down for you at night when you were exhausted, buy your favorite candy from the grocery store without asking, or take your car to the shop. It’s the small things that could count in how we act out our LOVE.
- Receiving Gifts: Have you ever mentioned to your friend that you needed a new watch and they gave it to you as a Birthday gift. Have you ever told your husband your shoulders hurt and he bought you a massaging tool. Sometimes being an active listener can help give you the clue to understanding this love.
- Quality Time: From sitting on the couch watching a movie, to going out to eat instead of ordering takeout food, to starting a book club with your friends. Time given to engage without distractions is always a good thing.
- Physical Touch: Maybe I just like my hand held when going for a walk on the beach or a hug from my friend after a stressful day of work.
There is less than one week left until Thanksgiving, now is the time to LOVE up on our family, spouse, and friends and spread joy into the holiday season.